[s444]

...paying most of the mortgage..? She has moved out for over a year and half and left him for another man.Yet, he still pays her mobile phone and all other bills..I don't want to be the third wheel! he text ed her to say they need to sort this.She reacted,through text again saying he was being out of order.But wont meet him up.I think I want out as I will always be 2nd best..They don't have any children. But it comes across that he will always ask "how high" where she is concerned.. shall i just walk away? Thanks in advance for advice.

[Turtle]

Don't walk, run! He needs to get his life in order.

[PAGirl77]

It sounds like his heart is still set on her, even if he does get the divorce. You sound caring and like you deserve better...at least someone who will give you the heart and not make you feel second fiddle!

[Marylin]

I would leave that mess alone.I saw some book in Borders book store about dating a divorced man, i think that was the title of the book too.. it talks about that stuff and lets you know how to decide whether to stay or walk away.

[Bilby]

Yes, walk away. But tell him you're going to, and tell him why. Don't accuse or exaggerate; just tell him how things seem to you and how it makes you feel. Don't burn your bridges, because it might be that he loves you more than you think, but just doesn't realise how you've been feeling. This gives him the chance to change things, or to work harder to keep you, if he really does love you. If he lets you go, or isn't willing to make you feel more important, then you lose nothing by walking away.

[kim27]

walk away ....he still loves her.he chooses to pay the bills to let her know he cares.dont stay any longer.but you might not listen until its too late.i hope you see that he should be focussed on you and not her.what they had is over, but he is paying her bills that is a no no.