[Golden_Fall]

owns half the mortgage and it's causing problems for me? Basically, she still pays for half the flat. She comes over to pick stuff up from the attic and such whenever she wants, although this isn't very often but... She doesn't know about me. He won't tell her because her dad was diagnosed with cancer is is probably going to die and he doesn't want to upset her by saying he's found someone else. But we've been involved for nearly a year. They sometimes still ring each other, she sometimes leans on him for emotional support. He says he's over her but he still cares and is there for her as a friend. This also means when she wants to come over I have to leave or can't come over myself to see him. I was banned from his place for a week once because he didn't know when that week she was coming over.Is this really fair on me? It really gets to me and the most he's said is "I know it's hard on you but this isn't so black and white"... Any suggestions?I'm sitting here devouring a tub on Ben and Jerry's...