If I was the judge in a court of law, and he has money to go to Egypt for vacations, and to support a woman, then he has money to make his payments.
File for child support today. You don't need a lawyer. Just go to Family Court, fill out the paperwork, turn it in, ask for a copy and go to court on your court date. CS is retroactive to the day you file. File today.
Consider skipping the traditional every other weekend visitation. Try to establish shared parenting where he has the kids as close to half the time as possible. I had to have the kids 24/7 for years because he couldn't do his every other weekend, which is optional and unenforceable.
It's hard to let the kids spend time with Dad, but it sure would have kept me from hitting burn out. My kids would have had a much better Mom when they Were with me, and they may have had a relationship with their Father, which is Nil at this point, 10 years later.
Don't let him bully you. Quit having conversation with your ex. Ask him to call your lawyer if he wants to discuss legalities. If he calls the house, just put the handset down, gently, let him continue to rant, and walk away. Once the phone is buzzing, then you can hang it up.
You do what you think is right. Establish the foundation for your independence in your best interest, which translates into the kid's best interest.
And let his problems be his. You have enough.
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